Mastering the Art of Asking Someone on a Date: A Step-by-Step Guide

Dating: Asking Someone on a Date

Before asking someone on a date:

• Talk to mutual friends, if you have them

• Flirt with your eyes

• Give specific or general compliments, depending on how well you know them

• Ask them if they are dating anyone

• Show interest in them by trading information and finding common interests

• Laugh at their jokes when appropriate

• Assess their romantic interest in you

• Find out if they have a girlfriend or boyfriend

• Consider your dating activity options using the 5 w”s

Who will be there

What you plan to do

When will it happen

Where you will meet

How you will make it happen

Steps for asking someone on a date

1. Wait for an appropriate time to ask

2. Trade information

3. Mention your common interest

4. Ask What they’re doing at a certain time

5. Assess their interest

6. Use your common interest as a cover story for going out

7. Exchange contact information

8. Tell them when you will follow up   

Steps for Accepting Rejection

1. Keep your cool

2. Make a casual statement of acceptance

3. Shift the subject back to the common interests

4. Use a cover story before exiting

Other Rules for Accepting Rejection

• Keep it friendly

• Don't pressure them to go out with you

• Don't ask for an explanation

Steps for turning someone down

1. Keep your cool

2. Politely turn them down

3. Give a cover story for turning them down

4. Thank them for asking you out

5. Shift the subject back to the common interests

6. Use a cover story before exiting

Other Rules for Turning Someone Down

• Keep it friendly

• Dont say yes just because you don't know how to say no

• Don't laugh at them or make fun of them

• Don't tell others they asked you out